Emotional Stress Relief Technique

Read on to find out about the Emotional Stress Relief Technique - one of the easiest and most effective ways to relieve stress quickly.

When you feel stressed your body is reacting to the release of stress hormones from your adrenals glands. These hormones cause blood to be redirected to the area of your body where action is most needed. So, if you need to run away from a dangerous situation, more blood will be sent to your legs and hips. This will carry oxygen and nutrients that your muscles need to work extra hard. Your body achieves this increase in the volume of blood by opening and closing capillary networks (areas of tiny veins.

When you are stressed it may feel as though your behaviour is out of control. In a difficult or emotionally demanding situation, you can get angry and behave irrationally. Afterwards, you may end up regretting something you have said or done. You can also stress yourself by recalling past situations which upset you or made you feel threatened. There maybe times when you repeat unhelpful behaviour without thinking because a situation makes you feel as have in the past - such as shouting at someone who you feel is criticising you.

The body always puts thinking in second place to acting when it is stressed and/or in danger. And danger causes the closing down of the capillary networks in the front part of the brain as the blood is sent to the parts of your body that need to act. The lower supply of blood to the frontal lobes of the brain means that you become unable to think rationally and decide what would be the best action in the particular situation. This does not matter so much when the intention is to get out of a dangerous situation as fast as possible. However, when you are dealing with an aggressive customer or pushy boss, for instance, thinking becomes rather more important than action.

Emotional Stress Release (ESR) is a technique which can be used very easily to bring the blood back to the front of the brain. On your forehead, you will find that there are two ‘bumps’ of bone situated half way between your hairline and your eyebrows. Put your fingertips on your forehead and feel where they are. These points are called neuro vascular reflex points. There are many different neuro vascular points on the head, discovered in the 1930s by an American chiropractor, called Dr Terrance Bennett. The ones on the forehead are the emotional stress release points.


You may have noticed that when people are trying to think, are under stress, or are given a piece of bad news, that they tend to put their hand to the forehead or bury their face in their hands. This immediately brings the hands in contact with the emotional stress release points and brings more blood to the front of the brain. Doing this automatically lessens the amount of stress they are feeling.

The great thing about Emotional Stress Relief is that you can do it any time, and in any place, without drawing attention to yourself. It is probably best to start doing it in a quiet place where you can concentrate without interruption so that you can get used to the process and become aware of the changes that it causes in your mind and body. By doing this you will learn the value of the technique and you will want to use it in your everyday life.

How to do the Emotional Stress Relief technique

- Choose a quiet place where you will not be disturbed and where you can sit or lie down comfortably for ten or fifteen minutes.

- Close your eyes and put the fingertips of your index and middle finger of each hand on the bumps on your forehead (as shown in the picture to the left).

- Hold your fingertips there gently using a very light pressure and start to think about what is stressing you.

- Go over every aspect of the stressful situation in your mind and keep repeating the thoughts, really focussing on them as fully as you can.

- Keep doing this until you find that it is difficult to think about the situation anymore.

- You may be able to feel pulses under your fingertips. If so, keep holding the Emotional Stress Relief points until the pulses in each bump are beating together.

- When you feel that the situation you are thinking about no longer holds its original negative charge, open your eyes and focus again on that situation.

- Get in touch with how you feel now and notice any changes in the way you feel both mentally and physically.

Sometimes a different aspect of the situation may arise at this point and you may need to repeat the process again, or several times, in order to clear completely the emotional charge associated with it.

You can use Emotional Stress Relief for any stressful situation you find yourself in. If you can, go somewhere quiet for a few minutes to do it. If you want, or have, to do it in a public place, it will work almost as well just to put your whole hand across your forehead and rest your elbow on your desk or the arm of a chair.


The Emotional Stress Relief Technique is easy for children to learn. Many children find it helpful to use it when they are struggling with a problem in their school work. My ten year old daughter says it really helps her with her maths.

The best time to teach your child this technique is when they are already stressed or struggling with a problem. Show them how to put their fingers on their forehead (or their whole hand if they find it easier). Encourage them to think about, or talk to you about, what is stressing them. Make sure you take time to discuss any changes they notice. This will help them to see that the technique works for them and they will be more likely to use it again on their own.

Use it Before Stressful Events

It is especially useful to do Emotional Stress Relief before you do something you know is stressful for you, such as a job interview or public speaking.

Help Family and Friends with the ESR technique

You can also use it to help your family and friends by standing behind them and putting your fingers on the stress release points on their foreheads.

Give this technique a try and see for yourself the powerful way it changes the stressful situations in your life.


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